Here is the full transcript of clinical psychologist Raphael Rose’s talk titled “From Stress to Resilience” at TEDxManhattanBeach conference. In his research for NASA, Raphael finds that accepting and even welcoming stress helps us become more resilient, leading to a more meaningful, joyful, and socially connected life.
Raphael Rose – TEDx Talk TRANSCRIPT
Stress. Mistakes. Failure.
Clearly I’m here to give the feel-good talk of the day. I’m actually here to talk about resilience.
As a researcher and a clinical psychologist at UCLA, I’ve been working with NASA on stress and resilience research for over 10 years. The very same NASA that has the expression: failure is not an option associated with it.
Well, I’m here to tell you today that not only is failure an option, it is required to promote resilience.
Resilience means you face life stressors and challenges and you bounce back and recover. And in doing so, you can enrich your life. So whether you work at NASA or your job as a high school student, being resilient means you face stressors, not eliminate them.
To be resilient means you learn from your mistakes, not avoid making them. And to be resilient means your rebound from failure. So any mistakes made during today’s presentation is all done in the name of resilience.
Do you know what astronauts report is among the most stressful things they deal with when they’re up in space? A power failure? A meteor strike? An explosion? An alien attack? No. And that’s how their kids and family are doing back on earth without them.
Interestingly when it comes to stress, we are a lot more like astronauts and other people who work in challenging environments than you might think.
Astronauts, while they’re up in space, can worry about their relationships, their spouses and how their kids are doing in school just like we do. Astronauts can have conflicts with coworkers, just like we do. They get stressed by health and finances.
In space, astronauts report that the demands of their job and at times the monotony of their job is among the most stressful things they have to deal with. Hmm, conflicts with peers, stressful and at other times boring work. That sounds a lot like high school to me.
A key aspect of chronic stress is that it can be like relationships, health problems or work stress, is that if you’re not coping well with it, it can be detrimental to your health and well-being.
Chronic stress is associated with lowered immune functioning. Chronic stress is associated with memory and cardiac problems. Good thing I remember that.
The good news is that people manage stress better than others and they are more resilient and we can look to them to see what they’re doing well.
SO HOW DO YOU BECOME MORE RESILIENT?
Well, still working on that answer. But first let’s talk about what does not seem to promote resilience.
Stress can really hijack your brain. It can really grab your attention. You ever try to avoid thinking about the thing you’re stressed about, try to distract yourself, even suppress the thought or image of whatever is stressing you?
Well, to highlight that idea, I like all of you please now to think about anything you want. Think about anything you want but not a white bear. Think about anything you want but not a white bear. Go ahead.
How’d that go? Did trying to suppress the image work? Generally speaking, suppression is not an effective strategy. And while a white bear might not be a stressful image for you, it highlights the point that when we try not to think about something, it brings our attention more to that very thing.
So if suppression isn’t a good strategy, how can we become more resilient?
Well, here’s what we know about resilient individuals associated with certain personality traits and factors. Resilient individuals are more likely to experience positive effects, so things like happiness, joy, pleasure, contentment. They’re also less likely to experience negative emotions like anxiety, fear, sadness, moodiness, human jealousy.
Resilient individuals are open to new experiences, outgoing. They embrace challenges. Resilient individuals are so socially connected and integrated.
So to be more resilient, just be happy and have lots of friends. It’s not that simple and like most things in life, the answer is more nuanced than that.
So how do we become more resilient? The science on training resilience is still relatively young. But if we look to what we know makes up resilient individuals, it can point us in some important directions.
Let’s take the example of a high school senior. She signs up for a challenging math class. She joins the debate team. She volunteers at a homeless shelter in her community. And she asks someone out to the prom. Any and all of those experiences can lead to growth and more meaningful experiences. It can lead to positive emotions.